Should it be THIS confusing?

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My bf and I have been over for a month now. We were together for 1 year and a half, Im 19 and he's 22. We broke up because we had been fighting really bad for awhile and because of my strict parents.

Here's the problem: In the beginning of this mess, it was I doing all the crying and trying to win him back. He would just be neutral with it all and keep telling me it's over. Almost immediately, he was flirting with girls online that he's met once or twice back and it bothered me to no end but he said he was doing it because he's confused and single.

Now he is a huge crying mess because he misses me a lot and Im feeling neutral and confused. He isn't trying to win me over though, he's just a simple confused crying thing. He says he loves me a lot and even if he flirts with other girls, he ends up unhappy because Im the keeper of his heart. He doesn't want us to fight anymore or get hurt, but it's like he doesn't want to woo me because he doesn't want to hurt me.

Please help, we both love each other and are each others first true love but I don't know what's even going on!

ChibiMariChan is in a conflict with him.

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Well to start off I think the fact that he's not trying to get you back may meen he's sorry for not taking you back before. He would seem wierd after you crying over him and stuff then he comes running to you asking to take him. I think it meens he's scared to ask for you back and scared to hurt both of your feelings, but he really loves you and does want you.

That said, you seem to live him too. Until now you've been very sad to see him go and really what you wanted was to get him back. Only recently you're feeling these nuetral feelings which in my opinion are because of the fact that now he wants you back and he's almost made you back off a bit. But it sounds like you live him and want him back too.

So what we have is both of you love eachother and are confused but won't ask to take eachother back. So this little sadness era will continue until now one of you asks the other to come back. We know when one of you asks, the other will say yes but it's a matter of if/when one of you asks. Since he probably feels bad about it and is more confused I reccomend you ask him this one last time to come back because you love him and want to make it work. He'll come back I'm very sure.

Good luck

-bighugeford

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Bighugeford

Well now he says I have to make the effort to make him come back. I say it's both of us. And he gets me madder everyday because he just sits there saying he's confused and wants to see me try to make him want me back. Ugh

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ChibiMariChan

Oh my god I am going through this exact same thing!!!! Me and boyfriend have been broken up for a month too and I also have really strict parents. My guy doesn't make any effort and I'm scares that means he's all talk and doesn't truly want a relationship with me anymore but the other half says that when it comes to love, you have tofight with all you got to make it work.

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Dory26

I'm sort of in the same situation me and my ex were together for nine years and have been split up for 5 weeks.

She was a wreck at first and I was ok but now she is ok and I'm an emotional wreck I have realised I love her and really want her back and I have told her this but she says she needs time to think what do I do?

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Kipling1984

isn't it illegal to (or in some states considered rape) kiss a person who has/is 3 years in age span more than you?

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bestplayerever1973